Unveiling My Personal Battle: A Journey Through Anger, Frustration, and Healing

As I sit down to share a piece of my life with you, the persistent themes of anger and frustration dominate my thoughts. These emotions, like unwelcome guests, have lingered for too long, begging to be acknowledged and released. Today, I want to delve into this intricate web, specifically exploring how these emotions intertwine with relationships – those with family, friends, and colleagues.

In a recent conversation with a client, the haunting echoes of an unattended anger issue reverberated. He lamented not taking an anger management course two years ago, believing it might have salvaged his now shattered relationship. His story struck a chord, prompting me to address a crucial question: Can we truly manage anger, especially within the realm of our closest connections?

Unraveling the Complex Tapestry

This client wasn't inherently an angry person, but he found himself blaming others for his anger, caught in a cycle he couldn't break. Despite understanding the reasons behind his anger and the associated hurt, he felt powerless to prevent it from surfacing. This led us to explore the triggers – not just the apparent anger but the deeper wounds that fueled it.

Triggers, as I've come to understand, originate from various sources: childhood experiences, observed treatments, heard words, felt emotions, and the duration of exposure. Talking about these triggers might help, but merely scratching the surface without addressing the embedded emotions proves futile.

My Personal Odyssey Through Anger

Allow me to reveal a fragment of my own journey with anger – a journey that profoundly impacted my relationships, particularly with those I cherished the most.

- Growing up with an alcoholic and violent mother shaped my early experiences.

- My brother bore the brunt of my suppressed anger as it wasn't safe to express it openly.

- A constant feeling of being unloved and unwanted lingered from my mother's actions.

- The prospect of being sent to boarding school equated to punishment and intensified feelings of being unloved.

- My mother left when I was 14, leaving our family disconnected, struggling individually.

- Her eventual suicide at 17 cast a shadow over my formative years.

- Coping with these traumas led to years of excessive drinking.

- Marriage, motherhood, and divorce followed, each carrying its own set of challenges.

- My daughter's Asperger diagnosis added another layer to our shared struggles.

Each event left an indelible mark on my psyche, paving the way for anger and frustration to become my companions.

The Awakening Moment

Fast forward to the tipping point where I could no longer ignore the warning signs of my emotional struggle. Fear held me captive, preventing me from addressing the looming storm within. It took a crash, a burnout, and a realization that my life was spiraling out of control.

I found myself on what I now term "Long Service Leave from life." Bedridden and isolated, I had no choice but to confront the chaos within. This marked the commencement of my healing journey, a journey that I'll delve into more deeply another time.

The Poison Within

Returning to the theme at hand – anger and frustration – the pivotal step for anyone grappling with these emotions is to notice how they feel inside when the storm builds. It's a poison that infiltrates the mind and body, causing irreversible damage. The crucial questions arise:

- Do I want to soak in this poison, allowing it to devastate my body and mind?

- Are my thoughts prioritizing being right over the poison filling and killing my body?

- Do I like the person I become when consumed by anger?

- Is this emotional state in alignment with my true self?

- Am I choosing to be an angry person?

The Non-Negotiable Promise

Upon comprehending the self-inflicted damage, I made a non-negotiable promise to myself – I would not allow my mind to poison me. Challenges persisted, and perfection remained elusive, but my commitment to be clear, as light as possible, and aware of emerging issues has transformed my life.

The Blowing a Kiss Remedy

One of the most potent tools in my healing arsenal is what I affectionately call the "Blowing a Kiss" remedy. This simple yet powerful three-step process has been my daily companion for years:

1. Notice the Feeling: Become aware of the tension, breathlessness, headache, looping thoughts, or anxiety.

2. Choose to Be Free: Opt for freedom over entrapment; acknowledge that you can release these emotions.

3. Blow and Release: Part your lips, relax your jaw, and gently blow out until the feeling dissipates.

This technique, adaptable anywhere, anytime, liberates me from old patterns and beliefs, guiding me toward a higher vibrational state and restoring my connection with inner light.

Concluding Thoughts

As I share this personal odyssey, I invite you to reflect on your own journey. Make a non-negotiable promise to honor yourself, irrespective of challenges. Embrace the "Blowing a Kiss" remedy to release toxic emotions and witness the transformative power within you.

In unveiling the layers of anger and frustration, we empower ourselves to navigate relationships with clarity, compassion, and love. Our stories, though unique, echo the resilience of the human spirit, capable of transformation and healing.

Heal Childhood Trauma

When I think of myself as a child and the dynamics that played out in our home. I remember I use to spend hours hiding from my mother under the house! (Queensland homes were built on little stilts.)

And no we weren’t playing hide and seek!

I was terrified of her cruelness and lion taming ability with an electric cord…me playing the part of the cowardly lion…

As I grew up I went hiding from her to spend hours at the pool, a place I loved and adored and had so much fun and play there that I still dream of it.

So each day I would go from living in fear to having the most amazing fun and freedom.

I lived daily feeling our home was a desperately unhappy and confusing place to be. And that happiness was short lived and existed outside of there.

It also began a pattern of living in homes that always had something that blew it apart. As much as I longed for a happy, safe home I had no idea how to live except be defensive, afraid and wary of others.

So for many years my relationships with family and friends consisted of me living with heightened senses to others, shouting and yelling (lion) pushing others away or cutting off completely, meanness and cruelty and many, many tears.

Even after I got married and had my longed for daughter my behaviour continued and to my horror I did this with her as well.

I tried desperately to live appearing to others that I had a marvellous, happy successful life and all was well however inside the guilt and desperation to not be my mother eventually made me so ill I was bedridden for a year.

This was my turning point..I could do nothing..I was completely spent

I was scared that I would die and my daughter would have no mother ( like me)

However the most amazing thing happened..

As I lay in my hospital bed staring at the mountains in the distance where my daughter was… I had this incredible knowing inside

I would live…and I knew I would be different as I was given another chance to live my life my way.

I turned to mediation and healing as I literally had no energy for anything else.

I knew for it to be different for me and my daughter I had to change

I had absolutely no idea how but meditation was the start. To simply lie in the darkness, surrender to the horrors of the past, to grieve, to release I began to change.

My explosive behaviours, my anger, distress, mental angst, helplessness began to heal.

I took responsibility for my behaviour, my emotions and began to have a relationship with my daughter and others that I felt an ease with. I could breathe. I could relax with them. I could listen without judgement. I was no longer judging them, wary of them, afraid they didn’t like or love me.

If you can relate to this I want to reassure you it can be different.

It all begins with you deciding the person you want to be.

mother and daughter love

Then have a damn good reasons for committing to the process and journey of healing.

These were mine

• I wanted to be free of my emotions that caused immense pain for me and my daughter

• I wanted close loving relationships with my parents and brother and his family

• I wanted friendships that lasted and felt easy

• I wanted to be proud of myself that I had overcome my past and become myself..a person I loved and respected

• I wanted to be free of judgement

• I wanted to be the best mother I could

• Also I was working as a healer by this time so to be completely clear and emotion free was a priority for working with others

Keep it simple

Healing begins with understanding it all began in the past! That every thought, feeling, beliefs stems from something that happened to you and is triggering you like a knife in the side.

Once you know that, you have control over who you are now..

You can begin to heal your past.

It’s not about understanding, working out why it is..

It is about being free of the feeling, the emotion, the thoughts, the behaviours that set off the alarm bells ringing and BOOM react mode.

Mediation…healing reduces the feeling…you are no longer fighting it, expressing it..you simply watching it rise and go like clouds in the sky.

Use my Blowing a Kiss remedy every day to help you be free of those feelings and thoughts.

Healing is the answer to having the relationships you love

As you know..after 16 years of working with clients globally! I am passionate and have a 100% strong belief in the power of Healing.

I find that I try things myself before recommending so yes I’ve done, do healing with myself.

• The fastest way

• The easiest way

• The results driven way

• The simplest.

• Natural.

• Unobtrusive.

• Painless way

To change the way you Think. Act. Feel. The way you are.

Is Healing Hands down the best?

You can specifically heal those painful childhood memories that keep you in unhealthy relationships with friends and family.

Where the way you relate to each other has continued for years, generations and the same behaviours are so ingrained you accept pain as normal.

• We’ll be healing the patterns you learnt as a child.

• We’ll be healing your current relationships.

• We’ll be setting you free to be clear, responsible for you and able to act on your behalf in ways you are proud of.

I am living proof the you can do this.

Nothing can stop you from becoming the person you are proud to be.

It doesn’t have to be a long drawn out, painful process.

It can be the most rewarding thing you have ever said yes to, committed to in your life.

With love, Ruth x

Transforming Relationships: 5 Remedies for Harmonious Connection

In this age where tensions are high, relationships often bear the brunt of emotional upheaval. It's a pivotal moment to reflect on what's not working and strive for positive change. Now, more than ever, is the perfect time to mend, strengthen, and deepen your bonds with friends and family. Let's explore five powerful remedies to shift from feeling disconnected to fostering a supportive, cohesive unit.

Understanding the Dynamics of Different Opinions

Everyone has a unique perspective, and navigating varying opinions can be challenging. Some individuals effortlessly connect with you, while others seem to misunderstand or even dismiss you. Admit it – you've likely found yourself in a situation where you've misunderstood someone else as well. From a spiritual standpoint, this presents a golden opportunity for transformation. But why change longstanding dynamics with others?

It all boils down to your thinking. When your energy is thrown out of alignment, you spiral into beliefs and stories about the situation, leading to judgment. This judgment labels others as bad or wrong simply because they don't align with your viewpoint. Sound familiar? Sibling disputes, parental disagreements, or conflicts with colleagues – these scenarios often trigger judgment.

The Pitfall of Judgment

Judgment places you in a position of needing to be right and perfect in others' eyes, fostering an environment where individuals await your downfall. This perpetuates a cycle of stagnation, with little room for growth or awareness. It's akin to adults playing out childhood patterns, unaware of their own pain, behavioral patterns, and unconscious thoughts. Choosing to change becomes a mature decision, grounded in intelligence and self-awareness.

5 Remedies for Nurturing Genuine Connections

Remedy 1: Speak on Your Behalf

Taking responsibility for your responses and reactions is foundational. When expressing yourself, assertively state, "This is how I feel" or "This is what I think." This clear, unforced communication establishes your perspective without seeking external approval.

Example: Instead of saying, "You always make me feel ignored," reframe it as "Is there another way I can say this that makes it easier for you to understand?”

Remedy 2: Poker Face

Embrace the wisdom gained from years of knowing others. Develop a "Poker Face" by accepting their predictable behaviors. Don't expect them to miraculously change. This awareness prevents surprise when they behave in ways that typically bother you.

Example: Instead of reacting with shock when someone criticises you, calmly acknowledge, to yourself that their viewpoint aligns with their consistent behavior.

Remedy 3: Be Your Best Self

Acknowledge your desire to be the best version of yourself. Focus on proactive changes in your responses to others, ensuring your experience of life remains positive. Responding with calmness and non-engagement allows you to stay true to yourself.

Example: If someone triggers you, remind yourself to respond calmly or not at all, envisioning them as stuck in their patterns.

Remedy 4: I Hear Me

Believe in and commit to yourself. Take care of your well-being by setting boundaries and listening to your own needs. Refuse to engage in fights, understanding that what others think is their concern.

Example: If a conversation becomes heated, calmly state, "I’ll get back to you on that" and gracefully step back.

Remedy 5: Expand to the Big Picture

Immerse yourself in a far-expanded perspective. Envision yourself as tall as the sky, looking down on interactions as tiny as ants. This mental shift allows you to detach from insignificant issues and maintain clarity.

Example: When faced with a minor disagreement, visualise it as a tiny dot in the grand scheme of your relationships.

“True connection with others stems from self-awareness, love, compassion, and inner strength.”

— Ruth

The Power of Awareness in Cultivating Connection

True connection with others stems from self-awareness, love, compassion, and inner strength. These remedies serve as practical tools to shift your approach to friends and family, fostering ease and calmness in your interactions.

The Transformative Power of Energy Healing

With 22 years of experience, I've guided thousands globally using Energy Healing to rewire brains, thoughts, and beliefs, facilitating the healing of wounds that hinder loving, happy relationships. It's an invitation to delve deeper during this opportune time, creating positive change in your relationships.

Embrace a Better Future

Use this time wisely to dismantle the core blocks causing pain and frustration in your relationships. Ruth's extensive experience, passion, and dedication to healing ensure a results-driven approach without dwelling on the past. It's an opportunity to create a better future for yourself and the relationships you deeply desire.

Ruth's Commitment to Your Transformation

Drawing on 22 years of extensive experience, Ruth passionately dedicates herself to effortless and results-driven healing. Her mastery in releasing energy, feelings, and thoughts that induce pain leads to new perspectives, deeper connections, and a renewed life awaiting discovery.

Make a commitment to yourself: embark on a journey of transformation, love, and genuine connection. It's time to embrace change and create the life you've always desired.